Okay so.

Let's talk about relationships... I want to talk about a concept i have just named "dare to

want".

You know the sayings: "A watched pot never boils" and "Don't cross a bridge before you come to it" etc. There are a MILLION proverbs that talk about not thinking about the future etc.

Explanation: don't dare want something, because probably you don't deserve it, and if you do then you still won't get it because of the sheer fact that you want it. You get me?

Now my problem with this is that it's a very determinist view (I made it a link for those of you who didn't do arts and werent made to read this crap).

To give you a better idea, in a very extreme way, determinism and free will are mutually exclusive. This means that a determinist view expresses that our destiny is made of past and present and that our actions are.. in a way determined. It means that I essentially have no control - or I have control but it's limited to the rules of a determined world. ie. a watched pot never boils.

IF I BELIEVED IN FREE WILL then i CONTROL MY DESTINY. Then i can DARE TO WANT. I can say "I want x" and I should get "x" if i am open to it - step in the right direction. People always say to me, stop thinking about it. Just forget.

BUT THAT IS A DENIAL OF MY INTELLECTUAL CAPABILITIES. Why is it that when i want to get something to eat, I can? BECAUSE I take the right path that leads me. WHY isn't it the same for things like relationships? True, you are dealing with another being with the same capabilities as you, but it doesn't change who you are.

YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO WANT SOMETHING WITHOUT THE PROBABILITY OF IT

HAPPENING BECOMING DIMINISHED.

Why does someone who forgets about it have a higher chance of getting x? That is not fair. And just silly. And it's an insult to my intelligence. I won't let my life be determined by other people's APATHY.

okay a little heavy on, but i think i was due.

but i think it's a good point. people should care about what they want: no games, no tricking fate, no working the system. people should be honest with themselves and admit to what they want. Then the games will dissipate - because no one is playing.

And then i can watch a bloody pot and it will bloody boil.